How do I forgive someone that hurt me? How do I get someone to forgive me? How do I let go of this pain? These are questions that will plague us until we learn to accept the fact and LET GO. The past can hurt, but the key point for this following article, is having understanding and being aware of both parties wrong doings, as there are always two sides to everything.
Your ego will not want you to admit your wrong, or perhaps contributed but this situation, which is why it’s so important to work on yourself and be able to control those emotions that overide us in moments such as these. It’s normal to want to get angry, shout and blame the other person or party, it’s normal to to want to beg and plead for forgiveness. However, just because it’s our human instinct to want to do that, doesn’t mean that you should. And just to be clear, YOU ABSOLUTELY SHOULDN’T!
Don’t focus on negativity, blame or resentment as these will make you stay in a low energy state, which will further the suffering you are enduring. The only way to forgive is to LET GO. Despite what a lot of people will say, including some of my peers in the mental health sector, they will say the best way to forgive is by ”moving on” and forgetting. But in my experience that doesn’t solve any underlying issues, it only hides them out of sight for a period of time, until you are triggered once more. This method may help a small percentage of people, but for the majority, the embers of what previously happened are still there smoldering away in the background. This is why it’s so important to take time and focus on yourself after a crisis.
By building on your own self-love and working towards continual self-improvement you can finally LET GO of the pain (which often has to be done in chunks) you can finally forgive yourself for the pain you are holding onto. That is the key takeaway from this. YOU are the one who is responsible for your own happiness and indeed suffering. And while it’s good to be self-aware and have regrets at times, over-thinking this and being filled with deep regret causes needless suffering and doesn’t get anyone closer to the overall goal, enlightenment.
If you would like to find out more about forgiveness, please view my video below on 3 easy steps to forgiving yourself and others, or alternatively book a free consultation with myself and I can assess your situation.
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